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    Have you felt cheated that there is supposed to be more to life and you are stuck with emptiness? Whether we’re elderly, college freshmen, divorced, separated, widowed, single, or parents, more of us are lonelier than ever. A study I read recently indicated that a quarter of the respondents say they have no one to confide in. And it’s not only people living alone; married people can be lonely; young people in crowded apartments can be lonely. Are there solutions? The Internet is an interesting component in this: you can interact with a community on the Internet that shares your same interests and achieve a feeling of belonging. However this can also leave you feeling more isolated in your day-to-day life; conversations and interactions with people on the Internet just is not the same thing as a live, face-to-face conversation with a friend or family member. By just reading this, you are involved with this type of situation. Does it help; is it fulfilling or let us ask:
    Was lonely ever or still is a factor in our lives?
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    it's weird.. I have felt lonliness and fought it all my life... even when surrounded by family... I have felt alone.. and lonely... like there was something missing and I was just not quite there...

    lately I have been feeling it again.. I have a super man who loves me.. and whom I am in love with... and I work.. a lot.. I volunteer for overtime so when I come home at night I will fall into bed.. I work weekends so I won't have to be alone.. this morning it has been very hard on me.. I have been super lonely for some reason.. I fixed my mower.. I finished my back yard.. I cleaned the kitchen.. and I logged on here to fight the lonliness.. sometimes though.. even when I do that.. I still feel it.. I am not close to anyone here anymore.. I don't know what anyone is talking about etc... and it only serves to increase my feelings.. to make them deeper.. darker..

    yes... I have felt it.. I still feel it.. and now I am going to post a bit and then go get ready for work so I can demolish it for yet another day... one step at a time.. that's all I have to do... just go slow.. and take on today... then tomorrow... then the next day...



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    i think everyone feels lonely at some time or another in his or her life. Sometimes loneliness is exacerbated when we're surrounded by people who we're not connecting with. I feel soooo fortunate, though, that I've always had close friends, family, loved ones that I connect with and can turn to... making it possible for me to say that, in my life, I have rarely felt lonely. Even when I'm alone, I know those I love are in my heart... and vice versa. That staves off loneliness for me.

    It also helps that I crave alone time, which I never feel like I get enough of... so for some, being alone equates to loneliness, but for me it never has.

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    Oh boy Alex, you opened a can of worms. Since my father died I have felt more lonely then ever. My parents are both gone, I have no siblings and no real close relationships. I don't connect with my husband and my kids are at ages they no longer need me as they once did.

    It is not a great feeling. I won't say I am depressed or that I let it overwhelm me, although I do know it's there and some days I feel it more then others. And yes, that is part of the reason I came to the internet. I have made some great friends, but as Alex pointed out, nothing beats face to face interaction. Being able to meet for coffee or whatever.

    It is something I must learn how to fix, I am a social creature by nature. I can converse comfortably with complete strangers. I have allowed that side of me to be squashed so to speak and I need to learn how to let her come back to life. I go to school and I get so much more out of it then just an education.

    I stopped working for a big company and started working for the family business and that to has hindered outside interactions. I crave that day to day interaction with people.
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    Since I have moved to ALabama I have alot of problems with feeling lonely...since we are a one car family...I am stuck at home ALOT alone...it sucks...I like to be a social butterfly...
    Like today I have been home alone since 7 this morning...with no one to talk with but my Princess puppy!!!!
    So I feel more that the boredom is a link to my feelings of being alone...and the weird part of it all is that when my spouse comes home...sometimes I feel I would rather be alone than be with him..
    I feel jealous and bitter at times when he comes home with funny stories that have happened throughout his work day...
    So instead of arguing with him more about needing a 2nd car so I can work...I sit here on the internet...and hope that my net friends will keep me company...but that doesnt always work either....
    I am in a rut and dont know how to change it!!!!

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    .....I am very comfortable being by myself because I am an only child. I am comfortable sitting in a restaurant by myself and doing various things alone. However, that has only come with age. When I was younger, it would have horrified me to not have company or a BFF on hand to accompany me. I got married because I was lonely and terrified of being alone for the rest of my life. That taught me a huge lesson: Not to be a slave to it and to be comfortable enough with myself that I do not seek constant companionship. I strive to connect with others and have deep interpersonal relationships. But....The difference now is that it is not the end of the world if EVERYONE is not my friend. I am satisfied with a few close friends that I can call on when needed. I think life is more rewarding that way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ipurr4u View Post
    it's weird.. I have felt lonliness and fought it all my life... even when surrounded by family... I have felt alone.. and lonely... like there was something missing and I was just not quite there...

    lately I have been feeling it again.. I have a super man who loves me.. and whom I am in love with... and I work.. a lot.. I volunteer for overtime so when I come home at night I will fall into bed.. I work weekends so I won't have to be alone.. this morning it has been very hard on me.. I have been super lonely for some reason.. I fixed my mower.. I finished my back yard.. I cleaned the kitchen.. and I logged on here to fight the lonliness.. sometimes though.. even when I do that.. I still feel it.. I am not close to anyone here anymore.. I don't know what anyone is talking about etc... and it only serves to increase my feelings.. to make them deeper.. darker..

    yes... I have felt it.. I still feel it.. and now I am going to post a bit and then go get ready for work so I can demolish it for yet another day... one step at a time.. that's all I have to do... just go slow.. and take on today... then tomorrow... then the next day...
    YOu are not alone there missy..

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    I have @ times felt lonely, but I try and stay busy and involved with what is going on in my friends and families life...I lost my mom when I was young so I have always missed her and I think that brings on my feelings of loneliness.

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    even though i do feel very fulfilled in my life i do still get lonely. it's mostly do to being left alone a lot. boredness and loneliness.. not my two favorite friends.

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    I get quite lonely often. I've really sort of lost touch with a lot of my friends and family. And since being laid off, I basically talk to my dogs all day and of course, you sweetie pies here. Sometimes, I enjoy being alone but other times lonliness sets in and that's when I try to find things to do to occupy my time.

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