While divorce definitely loomed in our future, I wanted to put it off for a few years (FOUR! OMG) so my daughter graduated from high school and my son was older. I was, unhappily, making a decision based on our children's happiness. But, when my ex-husband's anger and bitterness towards me turned to my children, the situation became intolerable for me. I did NOT love him then. I had not loved him for a long time. But, I stayed and had he been a different man~ not so angry and resentful about everything, I might still be married. Even without love. But, it would be BECAUSE of something outside myself. My children.